I am happily single and have been considering putting myself on the market. Okay, maybe that wasn’t the best choice of words. But, I think you get the point. Whenever I decide to go out on a date. There’s one question that always comes to mind. What should I wear? Can you relate? I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard or better yet, like I don’t care at all. I decided to ask my client who is an expert in this department. You might want to take notice. I’m certain you can benefit from the advice too!
What Not To Wear On A First, Second or Third Date…
By:Rachel Russo,MS, MFT
As a teenager growing up just outside New York City, I sure used to spend a lot of time talking about 1.what to wear 2. boys. Mostly, I would chat with my friends about what to wear when dating boys! Fast forward to the present day, and I am still having conversations about labels and love—all the time. Clearly, the friends and clients of my adult years don’t have hours to spend discussing the ultimate question: what to wear on a first date. However, they do realize the answer is just as relevant to their success in dating and relationships as it was decades ago. In the spirit of service, here are a few quick tips that will help you make a stellar first impression on any first date. Here is what not to wear:
1.Anything that is “too” anything. Just say no to: too perfect, too done up, too comfortable, too sexy, and too tall. In other words, this eliminates clothing and makeup that looks as if you are trying too hard, resembles gym attire and sleep wear, includes jaw-dropping cleavage, and heels that will make you four to five inches taller. (Yes, tall is beautiful, but comfort and the ability to walk properly in your shoes on a first date is priceless!)
2. Clothing that does not flatter you. The most important things to consider when purchasing garments is fit and color. This is where a lot of otherwise savvy women get into trouble. Clothing that is too tight is a major “dating don’t”. Personally, I prefer loose-fitting shirts with comfortable but sexy jeans and cocktail dresses that I can breathe in for a dinner or drinks date. (Okay, maybe I should say clothes that I can eat in!) A lot of people underestimate the importance of color, but shades that match with your hair and skin tones can do so much for one’s image!
3. Something that doesn’t speak to who truly are. Perhaps one of the most important tips for a first date is to simply be you! There is a lot to consider when creating an image that will attract love–namely hair, makeup, clothing, and accessories. It must all be in line with your unique personality and sense of style. A first date is not the time to try out a drastic new look—or get a facial! If you choose a look that you are comfortable with–a tried and true outfit that makes you feel great every time you put it on—you will exude confidence. Nothing gets you a second date like confidence.
So there you have it! Three things not to incorporate into your first date wardrobe. When it comes to finding a compatible match, knowing what you don’t want is just as important as knowing what you do want. Fashion and style are no different! Happy Dating!
Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a NYC-based Dating, Relationship, & Image Coach who helps marriage-minded singles and couples makeover their attitudes, appearances, and love lives. To learn more about Rachel, please visit her website at www.RachelRusso.com.