We are all born equal but it’s up to us to multiply what we’ve been given. How do we make the most of our “Born Identity”? We develop self-esteem. If you ask most women if they’re confident they will say yes but secretly their not. I know I wasn’t always. In fact, I was “In the closet about my self-esteem”. You see I would put on the mask in public but inside I was abusing myself so much I should have called 911. You know the inner dialogue that is rampant within women.
So why is it that we walk around in despair with low self-esteem? I think it’s because we weren’t taught how to develop a healthy self-image. Think about it. Did we have Self Esteem 101 or Confidence I-IV in high school? Imagine if we did, we’d be walking around happier & the world would be a more beautiful place. When a confident woman walks in a room she can command attention from both men & women.
The Importance of Self Esteem
It’s never too late to start but it’s always too late to finish. So let’s tackle this topic. What is self-esteem? Self esteem is your opinion of yourself. High self esteem is a good opinion of yourself and low self esteem is a bad opinion of yourself. You might want to read that line again. High self esteem is a good opinion of yourself and low self esteem is a bad opinion of yourself.
I can’t express the importance of a healthy self esteem. It’s truly the foundation of your existence & should never be underestimated. Self-esteem is critical because it will have a massive impact on your life & the choices you make. For example, you will have increased self-worth & will hold yourself to a higher standard in your career & relationships. If you’re ever feeling down low self-esteem is the culprit. Self esteem is the corner stone of your mental health as well. I think the easiest way to increase your self esteem is to tap into your “Born Identity”. Most of us spend so much time trying to be someone else that we never cultivate our unique talents & gifts. Think about how happy & peaceful babies are. They are happy to be alive. They might cry because they can’t have their bottle, but at the same time they are fearless & they’re definitely not worrying about what other people think. As we grow older it seems our confidence diminishes & we lose sight of who we really are.
Low Self Esteem
Low self esteem comes from an “ugly” self image. Your self image is based on how you see yourself. Do you think you are a good, honest, hardworking or friendly pers on? Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror or do you believe others look better and dress better than you?
Low self esteem means low confidence which causes a negative thought pattern. You are likely to give up easily rather than face challenges. In addition, it’s directly linked to your happiness and wellbeing.
Are you your worst critic? This can cause you to lose confidence so it is vital, you stop beating yourself up if you want to build your self esteem.
If you spend majority of your time speaking negatively about yourself & thinking negative thoughts within, it might be time to tap into your “born identity” so you can start appreciating who you are & what you have to offer the world.
Low self esteem feeds your negative thinking and causes you to believe the criticism received from others. Again if you have a severe case of “Worrying about what other people think syndrome” it stems from having a low self esteem. Do you speak with conviction & stand 100% behind your values and beliefs? Or are you easily influenced & refrain from having an opinion of your own. It’s time you see yourself as an asset instead of acting like you’re a liability.
Other factors to consider if you have low esteem. Do you value your job? Are you doing what you love? Are you charging what you’re worth? Do you have healthy relationships with those that you work with & do they respect you. The more respect you have for yourself, the more you will garner from others.
High Self Esteem
Most people that have a high self esteem have developed a positive attitude toward life. It is very important because it affects how you think, act and even how you relate to other people. It allows you to live life to the full est & stay true to your “Born Identity”. You are who you are! If you have a high level of self esteem. You will be confident, happy, highly motivated and garner a mindset for success. Failing is not an option when you have a high self esteem & taking on someone else’s identity is not in your vicinity.
10 Characteristics of A Woman With High Self-Esteem
- You respect who you are & have respect for others.
- You believe in who you are.
- You believe you are worthy & consider yourself a valuable person.
- You know you are capable & recognize your strengths.
- You refrain from comparing yourself to others.
- You take full responsibility for you actions & make no excuses for your shortcomings.
- You are independent & would rather lead than follow.
- You are in control of your life & know where you’re going.
- You are happy & live with a glass half-full mentality.
- You are confident and handle challenges effortlessly.
If you want to be successful the most important thing to work on is your self esteem